Baby Bird

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When a baby bird is trying to hatch, it will peck its shell until it cracks open and falls away, and then the bird is finally able to emerge. If some overly-ambitious helper comes along to crack the shell and “help” the baby, it will probably die. This pecking process actually strengthens the baby bird’s muscles and stimulates its brain, and those skills are essential if it is to survive on its own.

Consider parenting our own children. Don’t we hear ourselves whine endlessly that so many young people don’t have the skills they need to be self-sustaining adults because their parents have lovingly and with the best of intentions done everything in the world possible to keep their children shielded from stress? Could it be true that over-parenting is the biggest problem facing young people today?

You know you say it. I do too. Read more

The Boys of Summer

All photos by Tina Lovett Photography, 2014.

I attended a photo shoot last night, one that lasted well into the evening and had me exhausted, wet, and windblown, like I’d spent my whole day deep-sea snapper fishing. Before I even had my first cup of coffee this morning, the photographer had uploaded the pictures and posted them on Facebook for me and everybody else in our small town to scour through. Smiling to myself and fighting back tears, I dissected every photograph and matched it with each of the dozens of mind-snapshots I still remembered so clearly from the hours we all spent together the night before.

Yes, we now live in a world of mass shared experiences, almost to the point of being voyeuristic. And you know, sometimes I think social media allows us to share too many of each other’s experiences, to be quite honest. Through Facebook and Instagram you can see how strangers spent their weekends, and where coworkers went on vacation. Sometimes I even get to attend a wedding I wasn’t even invited to. But so much is lost when that happens. So much of the stories behind those images, recollections lost for the people who are only peering from the computer. They will never know what really happened, what beautiful memories were made as those clicks rang out from the camera capturing them. What most people take away from other people’s pictures is so sadly…incomplete. Read more